Why is Natural Hair Controversial?
I was just told by my dad and his fiancee that I will never get hired by a job because I have natural hair… I was only a little offended because I know that what they were saying was almost complete bull shit. But It did make me wonder…. Why is black hair so controversial? What’s wrong with it where so many people feel as if it’s a statement rather then just a hair style. I mean don’t get me wrong, my hair is apart of my identity. But I would like to believe that is the case for everyone.. When I wear my hair natural it makes me feel amazing because I know that I am being healthy, holistic, and true to myself.
Looking ethnic to some people means looking unprofessional and that is flat out ignorant. I will probably never get a perm again. Everything I do I do for people who are to afraid to be themselves. Someone has to be the first. Someone has to stay true and real so that every other girl does not feel the constant pressure to look like the mainstream beauty. And this is not just for the black girls this is for all girls. Embrace your natural self. I don’t care if your hair is straight, curly, or nappy. I don’t care if your pale as snow, red as a tomato, or black as coal. I don’t care if your wide or thin, plump, thick, or muscular. I don’t care. I want to motivate you. I want my words, my hardships, and my strength to motivate you… Because that what motivates me..Knowing that staying true to myself actually helps someone to realize their true beauty.
No I didn’t use an ab belt… I’m guessing an ab belt is one of this bans that are suppose to constantly work out your mid-section. If I’m correct, I don’t believe in devices like that. Just good ole fashion healthy eating and exercising.
For black women our hair controls so much of our life & our identity. It controls if we will go swimming, rather we will come outside, and unfortunately it limits our exercise. If you spend a fortune on getting your hair sewed in and layed to perfection there is now way that your going to sweat it out by exercising. In my opinion hair is probably one of the main reason most black women are not in the gym. For a long time I couldn’t stand sweating for the very same reason. Because I felt like sweating ruined my hair I would get perms to try and maintain the straightness. And although my hair never broke off from the perms, perming my hair was beginning to feel like a day job. So this year my new challenge was to go natural and get off of the creamy crack. This is by NO means easy, since I have been getting my hair relaxed since I was 5 years old. But I feel so much better running and knowing that it’s okay if my hair naps, curls, or does what ever it wants. And now I can finally get excited about new growth rather then irritated about new hair to perm. I feel liberated.
For the past 6 months I have been getting braids & sew ins. Yesterday I decided to RANDOMLY switch it up and add some kinky twist to my own head. It was super easy but damn did it take some time. But with patience, and netflix I got it done. This shall last me for at least a month :) This is a great style for a fitness sista because you literally have to do nothing with your hair after it is in. And not to mention their are tons of cute ways to style your hair for when you are not in the gym. Let me know if you have any questions about the installation, up keep, or whateva!
I Don’t Know How to Behave
I am expected to be tough at all times… Even when I have a good reason to break down or be sad I am expected to put my chin up and my best foot forward…And usually I can do that. But sometimes it’s should be okay to be sad, hurt, or feel defeated without everyone pretending that you are over dramatic or belittling your issue. I have become numb to things that most humans are expected to have some time of reaction to. I’m expected to be hard as nails at home and in my community but when I try to make friends with people outside of the hood I want to reveal a less callous side. It’s just rough. And I feel bad for complaining, because I HATE complaining but I’m having an emotional tornado inside and I couldn’t verbalize to anyone in person if I wanted to.
I’m realizing that not expressing yourself can be very painful and not to mention… Lonely. I have to live with so many thoughts, confessions, fears all to myself all because I have been taught that expressing feelings is wrong. I’m just frustrated and a little lost….
It really upsets me that people (girls in particular) have this constant pressure to be thin and perfect over healthy. Like I know it’s been said 10795488 times before but focus on being the best you. Lose weight and workout for you. I’m HAPPY to be a pioneer for team healthy. A living example that a size 10 can be healthy & hot! It’s okay to love your favorite celebs body and be motivated by them but at the end you need to work with what you’re blessed with because it is truly a gift ❤
If you are anything like me your phone is never far away from you. You’re texting, taking cute pics, and constantly stalking your Facebook crush. But believe it or not technology can really help you with maintaining your healthy lifestyle. Here are a few apps that helped me along the way!